punishments?

We were always a spanking family until here recently. I started realizing that my younger daughter thinks it's okay to hit because she sees us spanking her older sister. Plus I really think that it only makes Liz act worse to be spanked, so it instead of making my kids better it's making them both worse! We stopped completely as of a week ago and I can already see improvements!

Liz just had a minor meltdown. She refused to drink her milk this morning and as a result it of course got warm from sitting out for too long so she asked for a new cup of milk. I offered her apple juice just because i thought she would like it and she started yelling at me that she wanted milk and that's why she asked for milk! Then I gave her milk and she screamed and cried for about 40 minutes about how she hates milk and I need to get up and get her some juice right now! Excuse me Missy! So....right now Liz is laying down for her first nap in nearly year! I really hope she actually falls asleep because I would love to have a chance to do some dishes!

On an off note Sam wants to potty train really bad! I would LOVE to have them both potty trained!!
Parts of the process I am NOT looking forward too
1) For some reason when we were potty training Liz she went through a phase where she rubbed poo all over everything!! Not sure if every kid does or if Sam will or not but it is definitely #1 on my list of phases to avoid!
2) The accidents in panties, o its so much worse than diapers
3) Cleaning the potty
Other than that let's go!